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August 20, 2007

My Pass to My Father’s Memorial Mass

Filed under: News, Updates — dearsociety @ 3:45 am

Manny Cordeiro

Kingston Penitentiary (KP), Isolation

Saturday, August 11, 2007, Eleven PM 

Dear Society:
My Pass to My Father’s Memorial Mass Yesterday, August 10, 2007 (Prisoner’s Justice Day)
(Includes 11 Photos) 

 

Thank you for your time and interest in our situation, Ladies and Gentlemen.  These notes aim to give you a current view of where we’re at, and what’s going on with us?  This is the first such note, and in needing a current document that also sums up our main issues and objectives, it will also serve that purpose.  If you already know such, just read about the pass.

My father, Manuel, died on Sunday, July 29, 2007, at age 84.  Though I was named after him, we’ve been distant in every sense of the word, right from my birth.  A couple of years ago, he came to visit me for the first time.  Angie brought him, but with her, our relationship and our visits forever under attack, she was not allowed to attend such an important visit.  Angie was ordered to wait outside of KP.

The visit with my father in 2005, it was a real trip, but I’m really glad he came (my parents retired back to Portugal when I was around seventeen, without me).  Walking into the visiting room, I suddenly saw my father looking so old and fragile, crying as soon as he saw me.  Shit, the father I knew would never cry or show any emotions, no matter what the situation.  It caught me off guard.  I was as understanding and forgiving as I could be.

My Father, Manuel, my niece, and my Mom, Maria, now 83There was a sensitive moment during our visit that I wish to share with you, Ladies and Gentlemen.  Since this was the first (and last) time we really talked, my father felt the need to get something off his chest that he’s held against me his entire life:  “Why did you not work for your father like your brothers (two) and sisters (two)?”  He’s regarding our cultural and/or family tradition where the kids find work and hand their pays over to their father (until they get married).

Hoping it would also get me an answer that I’ve always wondered about, I responded to his question as gently as I could:

“Well, I don’t think it’s fair to blame me for that.  As you know, mom had me at age 44, and so I’m the youngest by far.  I was not united with both of you until I came to Canada at age 9.  I had to go to school, it’s the law, and the family wished me to get a good education in Canada.

“I always did well in school, and I had big plans and dreams.  And however young I was, I did always have a part-time job after school and during holidays.  I gave my pays to you and mom.

“Just as I was turning sixteen, you viciously attacked and tried to kill me.  If you remember, I was so hurt and terrified, but however tough I was, I did not even raise a hand to stop you, Father.  When Mom smashed herself into you, your grip on my throat lessened, I regained consciousness, and ran for my life.

“You were so furious and so determined to finish me off, that even barefoot, you chased me through the streets of Toronto, screaming that you were going to kill me!  Had we a normal father/son relationship, you’d not have bothered chasing me.  You’d know that I had just won the 100-M and 1,000-M Track & Field at my school!

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August 11, 2007

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